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Donor Story – Vernetta Haywood

As Joe Berghausen and I pulled up to the suburban house outside of New Orleans we were immediately an object of interest. I was in my Franciscan habit which attracted some dumbfounded stares from people on the street, including the grandsons of Vernetta Haywood, the donor we were visiting.

When Vernetta opened the door, she was pleasantly surprised to see us and she immediately engaged us in lively conversation as we thanked her for her support and gave her a small gift. A slight and graceful lady, Vernetta’s outward appearance belied the many crosses that she has had to bear the past few years: the deaths of two of her children, one of whom had been murdered, her daughter’s battle with cancer, as well as her own health scare which necessitated open-heart surgery. Our visit allowed her to give voice to these burdens and as she spoke so lovingly of the children who have been taken from her all too young she said, “I feel as if a heavy weight has been lifted from me by your visit.” Our visit was a consolation to her, and meeting her made my first trip to visit our donors and friends in Louisiana and Texas, all the more poignant. I thought to myself, “Consolation…this is what we are all about.” Despite the major challenges Vernetta has faced, she holds true to her faith in our Lord, and she generously helps us in our ministry.

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“Remember when you leave this earth, you can take with you nothing that you have received – only what you have given.”

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Since the time of St. Francis and his first followers, our ministries, our ability to serve those in need, the education of new Friars, the care of our senior men all are possible with the partnership of our benefactors. Your generosity makes these stories possible.

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Accreditation by Praesidium, an independent leader in abuse prevention, affirms that we have strong policies in place, regularly train friars and lay collaborators, and maintain clear, independent processes for responding to concerns. It is not a one-time designation but an ongoing commitment, maintained through annual reviews and continuous alignment with evolving national standards.

Through this process, we foster a culture of awareness and formation — equipping friars, staff, and volunteers not only to prevent harm, but to actively promote safety, healing, and trust. We actively engage those closest to our ministries — families, lay collaborators, and ministry partners — to help us recognize risks early, support safe environments, and uphold a culture of accountability.

Any report of misconduct is taken seriously, investigated by an independent professional, and reviewed by an external board. Our safeguarding practices are designed to protect the vulnerable, ensure transparency, and respond with integrity and care.

We invite anyone who has experienced abuse in a Church setting to come forward. Our commitment to justice and healing compels us to listen with compassion and act responsibly.

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